Are you feeling like an eternal bachelor? Maybe all of your friends are getting into serious relationships and you’re feeling like the odd man out. Finding the right girl and beginning a relationship can be difficult, especially after you’ve left that college environment when meeting new people was as easy as choosing to sit at a different table in the dining hall. There are a few tips to follow that will help you meet, impress, and start a relationship with the girl that catches your eye.
Tip 1: Know Where to Meet Girls
Knowing where to meet the girl that will potentially become your girlfriend depends on what age range you’re in. For those in college, the task is easy. Get involved in groups, organizations, and clubs. Whether it’s an intramural co-ed volleyball team or a service organization, joining a group will allow you to interact with women who have mutual interests. This will also give you a great conversation starter.
Those who are not in college might find it more difficult to meet people. However, there are still many opportunities to get involved in groups that will allow you to meet women with mutual interests. Check out running groups, book clubs, and professional organizations. Eventually, it may be time to branch out. Don’t be afraid to approach women at bars or social gatherings. You can start up a conversation anywhere. Who knows where it might lead?
Tip 2: Be Confident, Not Cocky
There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Don’t cross that line. Women are, undoubtedly, attracted to confidence. When a man is sure of himself and comfortable in his own skin, it’s an attractive quality. Don’t be afraid of showing your quirky or nerdy side. When you’re meeting women, let them see you for who you are. That said, you don’t want to be so confident that you have an attitude that will turn women off before you get a single sentence out of your mouth. Bragging and giving the impression that you put yourself above others won’t get you far with most women.
Tip 3: Have Some Patience
Finding the right girl will probably take some time. It’s going to require patience. While you’re looking, try to keep your options open and approach many different women. Start conversations with women that you may not normally find yourself attracted to. Even if you don’t end up hitting it off, those conversations will give you some practice with talking to women and may help you figure out what it is that you’re looking for. If you have a fear of rejection, this is a good time to work on putting it behind you. Get used to asking for phone numbers and know that not every women is going to say yes. Be patient and know that the right girl will come along at the right time.
Tip 4: Steer Clear of the Friend Zone
After you’ve met a girl, there’s a period of time between the meeting and the beginning of a relationship. During that time, you want to make sure that you don’t get stuck in the friend zone. What’s the friend zone? It’s the space in a woman’s mind where she places men who she has no intention of getting into a relationship with. If you’re interested in dating a girl, this is not where you want to be. The friend zone can be avoided. Be sure that you make your intentions clear from the beginning. You don’t need to jump right into conversations about settling down together, but the woman should be aware that you’re looking for more than just friendship.
Is it possible to get out of the friend zone once you’re in? Sure. However, it will take much more time for a girl to make that jump. Many people believe in being friends before starting a relationship. If you both feel that’s the best option, go for it! Otherwise, make sure she knows what you’re looking for to avoid hurt feelings or uncomfortable conversations down the road.
Tip 5: Make Her Laugh
Marilyn Monroe was quoted as saying “if you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything” and that might just be true. Many girls are more attracted to a sense of humor than just about any other personality trait, at least in the beginning of a relationship. Being funny is a great way to catch a girl’s interested and keep her noticing you. A good joke will make you stand out in a crowd of other single men. Joke around to keep a girl interested, but be careful about making the switch from a good sense of humor to telling frat boy jokes that remind her of her younger brother.
Tip 7: Give Her Attention
When you’re interested in a woman, give her attention. Find ways to spend one on one time together. The obvious way to do this is by asking her on a date. However, if you find that a women you’re into isn’t initially showing interest, there are other ways to spend time together. Ask her to watch a movie. Invite her out for coffee. Spend time together in a group and find ways to start one on one conversations. As you talk, find ways to touch her without being inappropriate. Give her a hug when you greet her. Share a high five when you’re celebrating. Touch her arm or shoulder while you’re in a conversation. There are plenty of ways to touch a girl without making her feel awkward.
Tip 8: Show Her You Care
Make the transition from friendship to a relationship by showing a girl that you care. Be honest and be genuine. A girl wants to know that you’ll care for her and be there through thick and thin. When she’s having a tough day, be there to cheer her up. When she’s upset, be there to comfort her. Take time out of your schedule to be around her and let her know that you’re willing make sacrifices for her. A relationship needs to be build on trust and proving that you’ll be a consistent part of her life will help to build that trust.